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  I have started this website to share my story of recovery, healing and hope. I want to offer tips on how to deal with a special needs sibling and narcissistic parents. I also want to offer insight into how complicated the grieving and healing can be when recovering from abuse and neglect in the family.

  I am a survivor of emotional neglect and even though I have been recovering for 7 years, I still have a long way to go.

My biggest success was to marry my lovely husband after 3 years of being together. It was extremely difficult for me at first to persevere every time I wanted to run or give up. It took me a long time to believe I deserved to be loved and to trust that I wouldn't be abandoned again. With the help of psychotherapy, I identified my triggers, fears and self destructive behaviours. I learnt to take a step back and not react when triggered. It was all worth it and I am extremely grateful for all the support and self awareness I have managed to maintain.

  I hope you find the information on here a little helpful and I would be very happy to hear from you with any questions about  your own struggles. I am not a licenced psychotherapist, qualified coach or mental health professional. I have however worked in caring jobs for over 13 years, which include child care, special needs care and elderly care. I will be embarking on a Masters in Art Psychotherapy in 2016, but until then I will continue to offer insight and advise based on my own personal healing journey.I have currently chosen anonymity to protect myself. I hope you feel comfortable enough despite this to say Hi and share your story or thoughts. Hugs x 

 

 

 

 

 

 I am a married woman in my 30's, who loves good food, indie films, psychology, art, animals, live music and helping people. I am married to a very caring man and seem pretty normal on the outside.
On the inside, I have struggled throughout my life so far with extremely low self esteem, anxiety, complex ptsd & depression. I am behind emotionally in a lot of areas in my life, especially in feeling safe with intimacy and trusting people and constantly feel worried about most things in my day to day life. This is a result of my dysfunctional upbringing.
I knew something was not 'quite' right from the tender age of 7, when I asked my parents if I was adopted. Things didn't feel right at home, so I wondered if there was another 'loving' family out there somewhere. I grew up with a special needs older sibling & 2 narcissistic parents. I didn't have other family around, so felt very alone growing up! Nobody understood how hard it was to be the sister of a special needs sibling, or to be the daughter of 2 'emotionally handicapped' parents. I use the term 'emotionally handicapped' as that is truly how it feels when your parents can't comfort you when you are sad,understand you or love you unconditionally. When your daily life is full of drama, arguing, threats, lies and abuse, you become a survivor.
  Unfortunately I was unlucky enough to experience other traumatic events, such as a sexual assault, an armed robbery  where someone got shot, a home burglary, earthquakes, a car accident, my sister and father attempting suicide and constant abandonment in both my family and previous relationships. My ptsd is complex because of this and I will be starting EMDR therapy soon to help alleviate the symptoms.

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